CONSIDERING TIME AND QUALITY OF LIFE
❝We don't beat the reaper by living longer, we beat the reaper by living well and living fully.❞ -Randy Pausch
Mike and Emily wanted to take a long trip together to visit wine country. They thought about it and planned it for years. They could never quite get themselves to go, though. It never seemed to be the right time.
Then Mike suddenly passed away from a heart attack. Emily is no longer able to take that trip with her best friend and husband, Mike.
Chris and Jessica enjoy motorcycle trips and wanted to take their motorcycles on the open road to explore all the national parks in the lower 48 states. They saved up for it. They planned their route. And much like Mike and Emily, they never got around to it.
Now, Chris is unable to go, suffering from early-stage Alzheimer's disease. Even if he could, Jessica doesn't have the physical ability to ride for that long.
Considering both the time you and your loved ones have left, as well as the quality of that time, will help you design your life to live meaningfully while you - and your loved ones - can.
LIFE IS FINITE: YOUR LIFELINE
Something that everyone knows but few people like to think about is that our lives are finite. We were born, and one day we must die.
This is your lifeline.
Of course, you've already lived some of your life, so your actual lifeline looks something like this (yours may look different than the middle-aged sketch here).
Said another way, of the total life you have - or may have - some of that has already been lived.
Take a moment to ponder the life you've lived. Any thoughts or feelings come up as you think about your experience in this world?
What remains is the rest of your life, assuming everything goes well.
Take a moment to think about the rest of your life - no matter what your age is. Any thoughts or feelings come up as you think about the life you have left?
Of course, this is a gross oversimplification because we can't actually know how much time is left. You don't know how many more moments you'll have with yourself or with others.
EVERYONE HAS A DIFFERENT LIFELINE
Speaking of others, here's another fact that you already know, but may spend a lot of energy to avoid thinking about. Not only do you have a lifeline, but everyone you love also has a lifeline.
And they cover different spans of time!
For example, your lifeline and your spouse's or partner's lifeline might look something like this when compared to each other.
If your parents are still with us, yours and theirs might look something like this.
If you have kids, they have their own lifelines too.
Everyone has a different lifeline, even your dog (or cat, if you prefer)! That makes it important to think about your relationships and the experiences you wish to have with your loved ones.
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CONSIDERING HEALTHLINES
If we just thought about lifelines and how to best use the time we have life in connection with the time our loved ones have left, that would be a good start.
Yet time alone isn't the whole story. We might consider thinking about the health we have left along with the life we have left.
My friend and fellow "artist" (I put this in quotes with love - and would put my "art" in quotes, too) Dan Haylett coined the term Healthspan to put alongside Lifespan. You can learn more about his idea in this video.
His point is that not all years are created equal.
Over time, our physical abilities and our cognitive abilities decline. In other words, one year when I'm 55 is not the same as one year when I'm 85 (if I get to live to 85).
Thus, in addition to our own lifeline, we now add a healthline.
And just like with the lifeline, everyone's healthline is different.
CONSIDER TIME AND QUALITY
Considering both your lifeline and healthline, along with others' healthline and lifeline, can help you live more meaningfully by allowing you to invest your time, energy, and even money in experiences with the people most important to you.
Consider you and your spouse or partner, if you have one. There will come a time when one of you predeceases the other. There will also be a time when your partner can't do all the things they used to do and vice versa.
Considering time left is important.
Mike and Emily, who wanted to take a long trip together to wine country, never got a chance to because they ran out of time.
Chris and Jessica, who wanted to take a long motorcycle journey together, missed out on the opportunity because the quality of their health declined.
It's not just romantic partners. How much time do you have left with your parents? How much ability do they have to enjoy time with you?
It goes the other way, too. How much time will your kids have with you while you are mentally and physically healthy?
How much time do you have left with your dog (or cat, if you're a cat person)?
Thinking about your life this way gives you the opportunity to think about how you want to spend your time, energy, and money while you and your loved ones are healthy enough to experience life together.
You get one life; live intentionally.
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REFERENCES AND INFLUENCES
Barker, Dan: Life Driven Purpose Burkeman, Oliver: Four Thousand Weeks Ellis, Linda: "The Dash" Fischer, John Martin: Death, Immortality, and Meaning in Life Frankl, Viktor: Man’s Search for Meaning Hagen, Derek: Money’s Purpose in Your Life Hagen, Derek: Your Money, Your Values, and Your Life Haidt, Jonathan: The Happiness Hypothesis Ivtzan, Itai, Tim Lomas, Kate Hefferon & Piers Worth: Second Wave Positive Psychology Lindsay, James: Life in Light of Death Manson, Mark: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck
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